Anna_94 Your comment actually led me to talk with this with a bunch of guys in discord. I think it has to do with what authors focus on maybe. Some of the guys agreed with your statement. Anyway, you aren't weird. Different strokes for different folks.
What would you think is sexy in a novel though? Like if you were reading a novel that had intimacy in it. I write that sort of stuff, so just wondering. I want to create an enjoyable experience for all, so just wanted to know. If you don't want to share that is cool too.