Someone help me !!!! How do you know if you are in love. I mean can someone write something based on a theory and still make it humorous.

I am writing a book about really amazing characters: I want to write their beginning through the theory the problem is idk how it feels to be in love.

Don’t get me wrong I did have crushes and shizzles but I don’t think that’s Love I mean I think I just admire people.

Crush is the literal word for crushing a naive little heart while I usually recite numbers from 100 backwards and forget about the person -Love is forbidden- XP

    SnowDrop_ I’ve heard there’s actually two different kinds of romances found in books. There’s the more high schooler version and the adult version, though i forget the difference (i think the high schooler one is more of the unrealistic idiology of feeling in love while the adult one is more focused on a more realistic relation). Personally, i’ve never been in love before either but am writing a romance (though it’s kinda fading into an action scifi with heavy romance elements). Because it’s fiction, im putting things together to craft a relationship i think is fun/interesting, with less focus on whether or not it can be replicated somehow in real life (which real life love is most often different from what you’ll find in books or on TV since it’s not all rosy and happy)

    Idk if that helps or not.

    I believe Brandon Sanderson has a lecture (posted on youtube) that talks about romance. You might want to look that up if you’re interested.

    Or were you talking about the actual act of describing the feeling? For that you might want to ask your characters things such as: does the sight of the other cause your stomach to tingle? Are you shy and stutter when they’re around? Do they make you smile? Does their presence cause you to lean closer to them? Do they incite the need to annoy them by poking them? Do they make you want to flirt? What about spoiling the other? Do you constantly think of them? Etc...
    Once you have those down, you’ll be able to use action to describe what they’re feeling since the characters are reacting to it (the reader themselves would recollect the feeling of love or impose their idea of the feeling).

      Love is very hard to understand. It can vary as much as there are people since we all show love differently. Some spoil their loved one, some just can't bring themselves to say it, some deny it or doubt themselves, some are very open about while others are secretive. Love can be fluffy, hot, uncomfortable, and even hurtful. Depending on who your characters are, how they'll express love becomes different and they'll react to it differently.

      If I remember you're the one who had a married couple right? And in another thread you asked about kissing right? Anyways, my main point it that there is no definite theory on love. It changes with your character.

      For example: Let's say it's a gloomy girl who has a male friend who was always nice to her. They went to the same school for years and he was nice to everybody except she was the only one he really talked with. Be it about anime, manga, or just life in general he would always find a way to start a conversation with her. Her, being a little paranoid, took all of that as just him being kind because she was in love with him. Since she was in love with him she wouldn't even think that he could be in love with her. Sometimes loving someone too much closes the door for love.

      Not sure this made any sense... (. _ .ll)

      I'll try to put it another way. Love depends on the person.

      If you're wondering how people know its love: They become very conscious about the other person, they stare a lot, a tight fluttery feeling happens when said person is near, you find yourself wanting to be near them, want to know what they're doing, getting suspicious about who they're talking to and being protective in general. Laughter come more easily near said person, they ease your heart by just being near them, in your eyes they'll always look beautiful (or handsome), you want to be closer than just friends, you accept their flaws no matter what they are and they do the same for you. Physical touch like hugs or kisses become a need, spending any kind of time together brings you bliss.

      .... Oof, yeah.... Again, not sure if this makes any sense...

      Hopes this helps! (even just a little bit, not the best at explaining)

        Reckeva Notes taken thank you
        Yeah it does, I mean I watching this Chinese drama (first time) and I am in love with it. I kinda get gist of things ^

          Yuyumamoru Omg. For I second I thought you said I was married. I had the urge to pinch myself. I was mortified and that to first thing in morning XD

          I guess I am an unfeeling person. I don’t have attraction towards people idk why. So I tend to blank out when I try to write it and I realise I need to pay more attention when I read romance novel XD

          Yeah last time it was really help for me. I mean I actually wrote 3 chapters happily without having blank mind. So I am truly grateful.

          Thank you, it’s really useful to me. So I sincerely thank you ♥️

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