Hello friends! I'd like to give my experience with the ladies.
I have written numerous romance short stories, beaten over 75+ dating sims and visual novels, and have watched/read multiple romance anime and manga (around 100+). Knowing this about me, I've recently begun a relationship with a pretty awesome gal, and its...nothing...like the stories, dating sims, or anime I've watched.
There are no categories you unlock to learn more about them and to make easier conversation. No, special encounters or mere coincidences that'll get you deeper into the relationship. Hell, you can even get them gifts to keep them interested in you. You actually have to gulp engage in meaningful conversations and remember things about them. This was baffling, to say the least, why would they make these games and animes make females seem so simple?!
Being a self-claimed diligent and hard-working college student, most of my days are filled with studying, work-study, on-campus job, two meals a day, sleep, and other extracurricular activities to keep my sane (one of them being writing ). I wanted to get the full college experience and attempt to get a girlfriend my freshman year. It wasn't easy, I had to get out of my comfort zone. College parties (on and off-campus), Meet & Greets, Club Events, etc., etc. the list goes on...even deciding to make a quota to talk to three females each day of the week.
After the first semester, I felt quite confident so I started going down my list of Instagram cuties to see some prospects. A good number of them caught my attention, but no one compared to a certain gal...let's name her Janna. Vice president of the Anime Club, studying STEM, and one of her favorite rom-com animes was B Gata H Kei (it's currently in my Top 15) so, as you may have guessed she was the top of the list.
To make a long story short, met with Janna, and she looked a lot better in person
And apparently, she wanted to meet with me too.
She said that she had a friend that was interested in me and she was acting as a middle-girl.
I met with her friend, let's call her Jayla, and we hit it off INSTANTLY. I can't explain it...we didn't necessarily have the same interests...it was just something about her vibe and the way Jayla carried herself. We both wrote short stories and novels (she's actually the one that introduced me to WebNovel) and we started peer-reviewing each other's work quite frequently. She didn't watch much anime and I introduced her to my multitude of rom-coms and got hitched on the likes of The Quinsentual Quintuplets, Eromanga sensei, and Rent-a-Girlfriend.
She helped me with my writing and in return, I'd give her anime recommendations. One day I just popped off the question of a relationship during one of our frequent anime watch parties and she said, "That's weird I already thought we were going out."
I'm not bragging or anything, far from it. "Jayla," is way too good to me, and I try to remember that despite my years of anime and dating sims that females aren't one linear. She's caught me multiple times pulling one-liners and cheesy relationship topics. heh...heh...
So why did I share my experience? Great question! // TL;DR vvv
The reason is simple: If you think that there's no one out there for you, you're wrong.
And I'll say it to your face every time you doubt yourself. Every time you doubt if you need to wear contacts to be more appealing. Every time you doubt whether you need more trendy clothing or to be with the "hip" group that vapes and smokes marijuana. Not to say that changing your appearance, learning new skills, becoming more sociable, etc. isn't wrong, but don't do it for the wrong reasons.
Girls don't want a show-off with cool body tats and are alpha, they want someone who they can be their genuine self with.
With that being said. If you're interested in a girly girl (think Yukana Yame from My Girlfriend is a Gal) and you presume they're waaay outta your league—ever thought that maybe they just want someone who can make them smile or talk to on a daily basis (worked out for the male lead in the previous anime).
Y'know, just spit ballin' here.
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Shameless plug, I know -- but if you want a decent novel about love, cakes, and a group of friends: Check out Whip & Bake. The reason I decided to write the book was because of my spontaneous love life and the friends who helped me "Get gud" at life.