Legion20
Well, were those stories aimed at a male audience? I'm pretty much with you when it comes to romance aimed at female readers. Abusive males galore, because apparently that's the shit to aim for...
Japan and Korea has a pretty large market for romance aimed at a male audience, and far from all of it porn even if body visuals ususally is present to a disturbing degree. "Fan service..."
In those stories abusing the girls is, mildly put, less prevalent. After all the lead is male and supposed to be mister Joe average. Joe average doesn't spend his happy school days slapping girls around because, he's well, Joe average. Joe average, after being introduced as such, does however quickly amass a harem with beautiful girls. Romance is, after all, wish fulfilment on speed.