Just sharing my ideas about the mainstream novels and how the mle and femle think seperately. I kno its obvious and come off and might be too generalizing but...
Regarding harem, men often dont care about their backgrounds whether they poor or from an evil clan as long as they kinda pretty and caring. This shows that men in general are looking more on the physique aspect wnd they want to be comforted by these waifus. But sadly if u ugly girl u dont matter in this stories
While those with the ceo stories, females care a lot that the male is handsome, powerful and rich. These shows the tendency of females to find comfort and security. But if u poor ass, ugly male, u dont essentially matter in these stories.