I believe love is like a game... and it's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game… So just enjoy the game and create memories that you will cherish for the rest of your life.

About life - I believe in focusing on the positive… so I hope we all can stay positive despite the trials which befall us… Yes hardships sometimes come our way but we must use them to grow stronger… We cannot let negativity take over our lives… Always believe in yourself that you can do it. Things may not always end up how you want, but what matters is how you handle everything, and then you can say, "I did my best and I'm proud of myself."

From your humble author,
EUSTOMA_reyna
Author of "The Doctor Who Loves Me"

So...The year is ending so thought to write something here on the forum. It might be completely useless or something that might resonate at least a bit within that one lurker here. Now, these are just my thoughts. 

Being an active lurker both on the server and sometimes at the forums, I wanted to post something here for both the authors as well as the readers. Be nice, supportive, helpful even if you don't know the person. It might be an author who is having a hard time in their personal lives or it might be a reader who is trying to understand something she/he doesn't understand. 

I was surprised to have met some very fine people on Webnovel. Both readers and authors. People who are extremely helpful and expect nothing in return as they help you when they are in their free time. I have the habit of lurking and reading what people talk, some times scrolling, sometimes pausing to read what is there. There are others I have met too, some rare beings, well let me not go to the dark side. Because they don't have cookies! 

Being nice mostly doesn't hurt anyone but there might be some, well to put it more nicely, people who don't appear what they pose to be. Well, in that case, ignore them. There's something I have often noticed in people when it comes to drawing up conclusions on a person you haven't personally conversed with by taking the word of another person. It is the negative ones I am speaking about. Has he/she spoken to you? Or have you? We are people coming from various different places, backgrounds, contrasting thoughts where many of us don't bother to take into account a person's feelings on what our action does. After all who are they? Comes the thought.

To the person who is having a hard time...

There are times, like many other times that you'll feel low. Utterly hopeless to do anything like everything is sinking. A tunnel without the light at that time don't be disappointed in the life you have been given. Most of us wait to reach the other side of the tunnel where there is light, some who give up before the path of light is found. And there are some who light the light without waiting for the end of the tunnel. Some tunnels are short while some are long. We are all battling the battle of a war that is being waged in our minds. Most of us win but some of us lose to the darkness. Sometimes you have to learn how to cut some slack on yourself. To free yourself from burdens you have been carrying. To let go for a while before picking it back up and continuing with life.

Be good to yourself. Because you're the only one who can handle you. So be good and gentle on yourself. 

To some of them, be a better version of yourself and not others.

    Here is my life advice: Never trust people for what they say, only for what they do. It sounds easy but it's not. When people need you they will always act friendly, but when you need them, that's when real friends show up. If someone is not there for you in time of need there's no excuse. Do not hesitate to dump a so-called gf or friend. Life is short, don't waste it finding excuses for those who do not care for you. It's better to be alone than be surrounded by fair weather friends.
    Love advice: If you meet someone special you can even half-way tolerate, sink your nails in and never let go.

    Advice from a woman who has nothing to do with love and bored with her life.

    Love Advice:
    -Stop worrying about how many ‘wrong ones’ there are out there. It doesn’t matter. You only need one right now.
    -Be more afraid of losing time than losing someone who won’t tell you where to stand in their life.

    Life Advice:
    -Never give a stranger the power to make you feel less than your worth. They know nothing about you.
    -Waiting for the perfect time is a waste of time. Time is precious, use it wisely.
    -Two wrongs don't make a right, take your parents as an example.

    I am Blips, I wrote The Villain's Wife and the CEO's woman.

    To young girls: ABUSE is not normal in any relationship! Just because you read it here, doesn't mean that its okay. The world is cruel and brute, woman! Stand up for yourself! Love does not equate to being raped and mistreated. Love is not jealousy. Love is not you crying every night and doubting yourself if you made the right decision.

    If you want to be happy in a relationship, then you must make it conform to your lifestyle not the other way around.

    If you are looking for a sign. Then this is it. Leave now.

    Hugs and kisses,
    Blips

      TheBlips changed the title to Love and life advices from fellow authors..

        Learn to know when to let go.

        You might really love someone and that someone might really love you as, well but for a relationship to last, only love is not enough. Trust, respect and understanding hold equal importance in a relationship. It is quite natural to get attached to someone you are really fond of. It can be really hard to step out of a relationship you have dearly adored but know that when it gets toxic, you are not supposed to live your entire life, bearing what hurts you.

        Learn to let go when it turns toxic - it can be things, people or relationships.

        Life advice. Lol

        Knowing yourself and being yourself drives more people to want to get to know you. It helps you distinct what you need to help yourself in dark times.

        Just being yourself takes you a long way.

        Being open minded, Proactive, respectful, are some key variables to get you talking to almost any person. Having no objective besides wanting to talk and get to know the person first is a good mindset to get you used to interacting with people if your like me, shy and introverted.

        I have a full collection of advice to share. But I'll keep it to myself until the time comes someone needs it. Best of luck to yall.

        I have no love advice for I never been in love so that's not my department. Lol

        I can't resist bringing up the alien scene from Woody Allen's Stardust Memories, since I saw it recently, but this dialogue between the main character & super-intelligent Martians stuck strongly with me:

        SANDY BATES: "Wait, don't go, I have some questions!"

        MARTIAN: "We can't breathe your air!"

        "Yeah, at the rate we're going, we're not gonna be able to either. You guys gotta tell me, why is there so much human suffering?"

        "This is unanswerable!"

        "Is there a God?"

        "These are the wrong questions!"

        "Look, here's my point. If nothing lasts, why am I bothering to - to make films, or do anything, for that matter?"

        "We enjoy your films. Particularly the early, funny ones."

        "But the human condition is so discouraging. Shouldn't I stop making movies and do something that counts, like - like helping blind people, or becoming a missionary or something?"

        "Let me tell you, you're not the missionary type. You'd never last. And - and incidentally, you're also not Superman. You're a comedian. You wanna do mankind a real service? Tell funnier jokes."

        If everybody did what they were best at, at their best, life would be much easier.

        Or just go with the classic, "There are plenty of fish in the sea". I mean the liklyhood of meeting that perfect 100% girl one april morning is closer to 0. Maybe you have or maybe you haven't. Take chances and see what life brings you.

        And for you scary cats out there there is this saying in buddism:

        that if you meet somebody
        and your heart pounds,
        your hands shake,
        your knees go weak,
        that's not the one.
        When you meet your soul mate,
        you will feel calm.
        No anxiety, no agitation.

        And then again they also say meeting ones soulmates take 500 years in the making. I mean comeone who isnt ready after 500 years:P

        PS: Precell I agree with you on this . This novel has a big problem with the portrait of abuse in novels.

          Posting a life advice about taking a leap of faith that I shared on a thread a few months back...

          "If something doesn’t feel right [in your career right now], don’t be afraid to choose something different and create changes in your life. I know it is scary and daunting but you have to take that leap of faith: big leap, small leap, it's all the same; a butterfly effect in the waiting. Even if it doesn’t make any sense, trust yourself [because] your despair is not you failing but rather the life you are living failing you. Wish you all the best in your future endeavors."

          a year later

          In this time of crisis, we need more positivity. I'll be pinning this post so others can read and contribute. I encourage everyone to send well wishes and spread only love and support to everyone. Be respectful; personal abuse, obscene, harassing, threatening, hateful, discriminatory, or defamatory remarks in bad taste won't be tolerated and will be deleted. Thank you.

          If no one has told you yet, you are enough. ♥
          I wish you happiness today and sending good vibes your way. ♥

            I already promised that I will never marry, but I guess I can tell my friends about those tips in life. Lel.

            Never Marryyyyy

              Piokilek Sounds extremely tedious, the bachelor life is much better. Perhaps, this is just my fear of failing a relationship. Nevertheless, thank you for your advice.

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